So, it turns out that Jenn and I are now married. It's a good situation that is getting better and better daily. I've been learning that its not the big things so much as a ton of little things that make the difference. Good days are started by not burning down the kitchen. Like the song says, 'any day that starts with you calling 911 is not a banner day for you'.
The wedding went off almost without a hitch. While I was pretty sure about my role through all of the practicing before hand, I found out that we didn't practice the things that I would need to know the most. Things like, I should stand next to her father at the beginning of the ceremony. I tried to quietly excuse myself on that one... it wasn't as quiet as I'd hoped. "Its my first time" was heard throughout the entire room.
Later we were reminded that it was my first time by one of my groomsmen when during the vows the preacher rattled them off like a machine gun leaving me having to ask for him to give them to me again. Also, I spent the entire first half of the ceremony trying to figure out which hand was Jenn's left. This left me the entire second half of the ceremony to think about why in the world I gave her my right hand. Of course, 'ambos' are bad with right and left.
Despite the repeated faux pas on my part, the ceremony was amazing. Jenn was even more beautiful than normal. She shimmered. I'll never forget how she looked at me while pledging herself to be my wife.
My family was able to make it out from Oklahoma, and I was amazed by the turnout. There were about eleven of them in all, some that were recent additions and I was getting to meet for the first time. It was a great experience all the way around. I was happy to get to talk with everyone, and the only thing that I could really have hoped for was more time to take it all in. I don't think I've ever done so much so quickly in my life.
Thankfully from here on out, its always going to be someone else's wedding.
The anouncement was sent today for the termination of my singlehood. While the typical cost of talking the long lost groom out of it is a long series of shots, a good best man has stepped in and garnered me some nachos. God bless him.
Plans for the wedding are coming together, and as much as I am looking forward to it, I'm really starting to look forward to the two of us getting down to the business of being married. It's been a long time coming. Too long maybe, but alot had to happen for us to get to where we are. And now that we are on our way, I'm starting to ask the question "Are we there yet".
What is the destination for marriage? Its definitely more than an eighty year race to a dirt nap. Its more than a finish line. If you are looking for a finish, there is a couple of lawyers on the back of Creative loafing who will help you across the line for $185 no fault. The 'there' as far as I can tell is simply communion. That and of course turning my wife into a baby factory because, well, I'm catholic. (Sorry just had to toss it in there. I know this is a new blog, but you'll get used to it pretty quick)
So, things are definitely coming to a middle, as Mal would say. Up until now, life sure was something. After this, its going to be something else. Definitely something else. Neither would be something that I would call a bed of roses, but they aren't supposed to be. They are just parts of life, and life is actually like a box.... ok forget it.
I've been told over and over about how lucky I am to be getting married at this point in my life as opposed to any other. I'm young enough to keep the pace of early marriage, old enough that I've pretty much left behind the fraternity persona, old enough to have become well established (which I believe is the term that people use for 'carrying debt').
And I agree. I am very lucky. 27-28 seems to be a great time to get married, of course, there is no time like the present.
The one major hurdle that we have had to overcome is that we have a pretty full apartment. So what do we ask for on the wedding registry? Sure there are plenty of things that we need, but we are also dealing with a space issue. We would love to ask for a mixomatic and a hundred different things for the kitchen, but we have a full kitchen already.
Then there are the things that I would like to ask for but have gotten shot down completely on.
-Seasons of TV shows that we enjoy watching
-Scuba Equipment of any kind
-A Chandelier for the living room... it was just a thought.
-Outdoor equipment, tents etc...
-Electric Palm Trees
-Money (I'm a practical guy with no comprehension of the etiquette involved)
-Goal Keeper Gloves
-A Wireless Router (I was also shot down on this one for Valentines Day as well)
-Cigars... I knew that one was coming
I don't really know what should or shouldn't go on a wedding registry. I can't wait to get to the baby registry. If you think that this was bad, just wait. "Mattel's My First Mass Kit"
It's not as easy to get married as I would have thought. I've been on the phone almost constantly for the last 5 days getting just my family and groomsmen together on the same page. I still have to send out a mass email to the grooms-men father and grandfather, coordinating everything from dates and times to tie colors.
I just talked to Mike, one of my groomsmen, and found out that he broke up with his long-time girlfriend. she was a nice girl... she had a great dog. Her dog Riley is one of the classiest ladies that I know. As far as Dogs go, she is in a class by herself.
In order to earn a few extra bucks for the wedding, I've begun bartending again. It's taken some time to knock the rust off, but I'm starting to see some return on the time I've spent mixing drinks in a certain type of indentured servitude -- I mean training.
I'm starting to call up everyone I know in the bar business, letting them know that I am back behind a bar. I'd forgotten how much I enjoyed the job. It's akin to what I love about EMS. There is a rush there, a thrill. I can't wait to get back into a place where I have the latitude to really start playing around with the position..